{"id":123587,"date":"2025-09-23T06:12:51","date_gmt":"2025-09-23T10:12:51","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.iwillteachyoutoberich.com\/?p=123587"},"modified":"2026-02-10T16:45:40","modified_gmt":"2026-02-10T20:45:40","slug":"227-jason-katie","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.iwillteachyoutoberich.com\/227-jason-katie\/","title":{"rendered":"Episode 227. \u201cWe bought our dream house. Now we\u2019re drowning\u201d"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><iframe title=\"YouTube video player\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/iLE9NRhmWxU?si=n8VGq_nyvhIH6fXS\" width=\"100%\" height=\"400\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"><span data-mce-type=\"bookmark\" style=\"display: inline-block; width: 0px; overflow: hidden; line-height: 0;\" class=\"mce_SELRES_start\">\ufeff<\/span><\/iframe><\/p>\n<p><iframe style=\"border-radius: 12px;\" src=\"https:\/\/open.spotify.com\/embed\/episode\/5E9aRl1lzQjkvFVRmF48Zu\/video?utm_source=generator\" width=\"100%\" height=\"400\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\" data-testid=\"embed-iframe\"><\/iframe><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 300;\">Jason (38) and Katie (36) thought buying their dream home in Minnesota would be the start of a new chapter. Instead, they\u2019re buried in debt, daycare bills, and the pressure of raising a new baby while working demanding creative jobs in an industry threatened by AI.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 300;\">Despite earning $246,000 a year, they\u2019ve been trapped in a decade-long debt cycle, and every dollar is already spoken for. With $30,000 in debt left to go and no clear plan for what comes next, can they finally break free of survival mode and build the life they truly want together?<\/span><\/p>\n<h4><b>In this episode we uncover:<\/b><\/h4>\n<ul>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 300;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 300;\">How Jason and Katie\u2019s \u201cdream home\u201d quickly became a financial trap<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 300;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 300;\">Why their money talks happen every single day\u2014and why that constant communication leaves them exhausted<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 300;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 300;\">The pattern of paying off debt, only to fall right back into it<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 300;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 300;\">The hidden costs of homeownership<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 300;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 300;\">Jason\u2019s obsession with \u201ccashflow\u201d\u2014and why Ramit calls it a red flag that blinds them to the bigger picture<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 300;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 300;\">How Katie\u2019s childhood lessons of \u201cwe can\u2019t afford it\u201d show up in her marriage today<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 300;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 300;\">Jason\u2019s upbringing of scarcity and mixed money messages<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 300;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 300;\">The constant fear of job loss in an industry disrupted by AI<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 300;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 300;\">Why their meticulous tracking of every penny isn\u2019t working<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 300;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 300;\">The moment Jason admits he\u2019s \u201cdone\u201d with the cycle<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h4><b>Chapters:<\/b><\/h4>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 300;\">(00:00:00) <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 300;\">\u201cWe talk about every transaction\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 300;\">(00:22:05)<\/span> <span style=\"font-weight: 300;\">Ramit breaks down their numbers<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 300;\">(00:36:18)<\/span> <span style=\"font-weight: 300;\">When \u201ccashflow\u201d becomes a red flag<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 300;\">(00:39:39)<\/span> <span style=\"font-weight: 300;\">When \u201casking for permission\u201d follows you into marriage<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 300;\">(00:45:58)<\/span> <span style=\"font-weight: 300;\">\u201cWe couldn\u2019t afford the pool, but a new TV showed up\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 300;\">(00:56:23)<\/span> <span style=\"font-weight: 300;\">\u201cI\u2019m repeating a cycle\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 300;\">(01:21:02)<\/span> <span style=\"font-weight: 300;\">\u201cYou have more money than you realize\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 300;\">(01:26:33)<\/span> <span style=\"font-weight: 300;\">Where are they now? 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Get yours at <\/span><strong><a href=\"https:\/\/drinklmnt.com\/RAMIT\">https:\/\/drinklmnt.com\/RAMIT<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 300;\">Trust &amp; Will | Protect what matters most in minutes at <\/span><strong><a href=\"https:\/\/trustandwill.com\/ramit\">https:\/\/trustandwill.com\/ramit<\/a><\/strong><span style=\"font-weight: 300;\"> and get 10% off plus free shipping<\/span><\/p>\n<h2 aria-level=\"2\"><b><span data-contrast=\"none\">Transcript<\/span><\/b><span data-ccp-props=\"{&quot;134233117&quot;:false,&quot;134233118&quot;:false,&quot;134245418&quot;:true,&quot;134245529&quot;:true,&quot;201341983&quot;:0,&quot;335559685&quot;:2010,&quot;335559737&quot;:2010,&quot;335559738&quot;:375,&quot;335559739&quot;:375,&quot;335559740&quot;:768}\">\u00a0<\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:00:08]\u00a0<\/span><b>Jason:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0It&#8217;s that whole cashflow thing. It&#8217;s going out every month instead of staying with us and building something.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:00:20]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0You are missing all of the nuances of money, especially when you have very high holding costs with a house, a car, a baby.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:00:29]\u00a0<\/span><b>Katie:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0We had a half broken up concrete patio in the backyard. Our deck was now sliced.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:00:36]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0What is the state of your backyard now?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:00:39]\u00a0<\/span><b>Jason:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Shambles.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:00:40]\u00a0<\/span><b>Katie:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0A big dirt pile basically.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:00:46]\u00a0<\/span><b>Jason:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0It&#8217;s just a little bit scary knowing that we do have this big income now, but in the future it might not be there.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:00:55]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Your emergency fund wouldn&#8217;t last you even a week.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:00:58]\u00a0<\/span><b>Katie:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Well, growing up, I got what I wanted when I asked for it. I think that I can do that now<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:01:06]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Every time you have paid off your debt, you&#8217;ve gotten right back into debt. Why is it going to be any different this time?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[Narration]<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:01:12]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Jason and Katie are a young couple in the Midwest with a baby, an SUV,\u00a0and a big house. Isn&#8217;t this the American dream?\u00a0But behind closed doors, their money is crushing them. They&#8217;ve been married for a decade,\u00a0and for all 10 years they&#8217;ve been stuck in a cycle of debt. They fiddle around with their numbers, but nothing really seems to change.\u00a0So if you feel like you&#8217;re taking one step forward and two steps back with your money, I want you to listen to this episode.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:01:40]\u00a0I&#8217;m about to open up their conscious spending plan, which breaks down their net worth,\u00a0income,\u00a0and where they spend their money.\u00a0You can download and create your own conscious spending plan for free at iwt.com\/csp.\u00a0Here&#8217;s a snapshot of where they stand.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:01:56]\u00a0Their assets are 554,000.\u00a0Investments, 118,000.\u00a0Debt, 419,000,\u00a0and a net worth of 255,000. Their fixed costs are a staggering 83%.\u00a0Savings, just 1%.\u00a0And guilt-free spending is at 9%.\u00a0For a couple earning nearly a quarter million dollars a year,\u00a0most of their money is already spoken for, which explains why they feel so stressed out.\u00a0Jason dreams of a future with no debt. Katie struggles to dream at all. How would you handle this conversation? Let&#8217;s get right into it. Let&#8217;s talk to Jason and Katie.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[Interview]<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:02:37]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Have you both been in sync with money since you got married?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:02:41]\u00a0<\/span><b>Katie:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Yes. I think because we talk about money every single day.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:02:46]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Everyday? What do you say?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:02:48]\u00a0<\/span><b>Katie:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0We talk about every transaction.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:02:52]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0What do you mean?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:02:53]\u00a0<\/span><b>Jason:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Yeah. But that&#8217;s only in this current moment when we&#8217;re really &#8212;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:02:57]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Hold on. I want to hear from Katie. What do you mean every transaction?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:03:00]\u00a0<\/span><b>Jason:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Yeah. Sorry.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:03:01]\u00a0<\/span><b>Katie:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0I don&#8217;t know. Every trip to the grocery store. Every night that we go out to a restaurant, we talk about it ahead of time.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:03:11]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Besides eating out, what other kind of conversations about money do you have every day?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:03:16]\u00a0<\/span><b>Katie:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0For our daughter, for example, she&#8217;s nine months. She&#8217;s constantly growing out of her clothes. She needs new toys for developmental leaps and stuff like that. And so I always want to get her something new, and then I realize that we can&#8217;t. So just because we don&#8217;t have a ton of fund money, everything&#8217;s allocated to these specific budgets.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:03:42]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Why do you talk about that?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:03:44]\u00a0<\/span><b>Katie:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0I think it&#8217;s just important to be transparent with each other about the things that we want. And I guess planning for the future if we can&#8217;t. I guess I always want his approval.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:03:59]\u00a0<\/span><b>Jason:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Yeah. Every once in a while she might ask for extra clothes for our daughter. If it&#8217;s not in the category, I know that it&#8217;s meant to be used in other places. And so it&#8217;s really hard to say like, &#8220;Oh yeah, go get that,&#8221; even though it&#8217;s something that could be needed.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:04:20]\u00a0I think we are out of time to just mess around. Right now is when we need to start investing and really think seriously about what our money is doing for us. And I feel like if we don&#8217;t start now, we&#8217;re not going to have enough to retire with. And so I think it works, especially right now while we&#8217;re in this season of just paying everything down to get to that next step.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:04:47]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0You say that it works, but how much debt are you in?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:04:53]\u00a0<\/span><b>Jason:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0About $30,000.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:04:56]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Oh. Okay. So if everything is allocated, what&#8217;s the problem?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:05:02]\u00a0<\/span><b>Jason:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0I think we&#8217;re dealing with our past demons still.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:05:05]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0All right. Let&#8217;s talk about the past.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:05:07]\u00a0<\/span><b>Jason:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0It definitely started with student loans. I left college in 2010 with about 120k in loans from an art school. My whole life since then has just been paying out that debt towards something. And then as our income grew, I feel like we&#8217;re like, &#8220;It can fit. The monthly payment can fit.&#8221; And we just kept adding things on as we paid things off.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:05:40]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0What do you mean specifically? Adding what on?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:05:43]\u00a0<\/span><b>Jason:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Adding debt.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:05:44]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0On what?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:05:46]\u00a0<\/span><b>Jason:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0I don&#8217;t know. Going and getting some furniture and getting a credit line at a furniture store. It&#8217;s just all these little things that are taking away from that cashflow. We don&#8217;t think about it as cashflow. We thought about it as, well, we can afford the minimum. And that&#8217;s what got us here, is like, oh, we can keep affording the minimum until you&#8217;re just stuck in a hole and you&#8217;re trying to dig yourself out.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:06:17]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0That&#8217;s how most people do their money life. It&#8217;s a very simple way of looking at the world. It&#8217;s almost like, should we buy this thing? Does it fit in our house? It&#8217;s pretty much as simple as that. Don&#8217;t even take a measuring tape. Just, ah, vibes. Does it fit? And the thing is, you can actually fit a lot of stuff, especially if you&#8217;re just paying a little bit until one day you try to open your door on your financial life and it&#8217;s just full of stuff.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:06:47]\u00a0<\/span><b>Jason:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Yes. Exactly.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:06:48]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Katie, what else did you buy during that time?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:06:50]\u00a0<\/span><b>Katie:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0In 2020, we fully finished paying off his student loans, which was 120k.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:06:57]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Great. How&#8217;d you feel about that?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:06:59]\u00a0<\/span><b>Katie:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0That felt amazing.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:07:00]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Yeah.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:07:01]\u00a0<\/span><b>Katie:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0We were in a one-bedroom apartment. We were throwing everything we had at our debt. But then we were in a one-bedroom apartment, working from home, and we were itching to buy a house.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:07:18]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Why?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:07:18]\u00a0<\/span><b>Katie:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Because we wanted to start a family.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:07:22]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0What does the two have to do with each other? I&#8217;m confused.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:07:26]\u00a0<\/span><b>Katie:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0I guess we wanted more space in order to raise our child.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:07:31]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Okay. So you&#8217;re like, &#8220;We got to buy a house. We&#8217;re ready to start a family. We need more space.&#8221; Okay. So did you?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:07:40]\u00a0<\/span><b>Katie:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Yes. So we were essentially debt-free. So then we bought a house in October of 2020, and we knew that we could afford it as far as our combined income. But then we had a large house and wanted to get furniture. Basically that&#8217;s what he was referring to, is we wanted to get furniture to&#8211;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:08:03]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0How large?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:08:04]\u00a0<\/span><b>Jason:\u00a0<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Too large.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:08:05]\u00a0<\/span><b>Katie:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a02,900 square feet. I know coming from New York, I&#8217;m sure&#8211;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:08:12]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Why did you do that? Just tell me. 2,900 square feet. Why?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:08:17]\u00a0<\/span><b>Jason:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Well, the house is beautiful, for one. We walked in and we were like&#8211; we had rose-colored glasses. We were just starstruck by this house. And I think we originally wanted, what, four bedrooms or something. I can&#8217;t remember what our list was, but we wanted a lot. And for a starter house, it probably wasn&#8217;t the best idea.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:08:39]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Okay, so you got a almost 3,000-square-foot house for the two of you. You could fit it financially speaking. You could afford it.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:08:47]\u00a0<\/span><b>Jason:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Yeah.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:08:48]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Okay, so you got it. Then the furniture, you need to fill the house. How much did the furniture cost in total?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:08:53]\u00a0<\/span><b>Jason:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Oh man. Probably 15,000.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:08:59]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Mm. Are you sure?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:09:02]\u00a0<\/span><b>Jason:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Yeah, we got a new bed. Yeah, we did a bed. We did couches. We did chairs. Yeah, 15, 20,000, I would say.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:09:14]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0All right. Had you planned for that when you were evaluating the price of the house?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:09:20]\u00a0<\/span><b>Jason:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0No.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:09:22]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Okay. All right. So that&#8217;s where you took out a line of credit to get the furniture. Is that right?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:09:28]\u00a0<\/span><b>Katie:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Through a retail card. Yeah.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:09:32]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Oh. Okay, so you opened up a card. What&#8217;d they give you? One year, 0%, some BS like that?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:09:39]\u00a0<\/span><b>Jason:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0I can&#8217;t remember. Yeah, something like that.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:09:41]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Katie&#8217;s nodding. And did you pay it off?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:09:44]\u00a0<\/span><b>Katie:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0We did.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:09:44]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Oh.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:09:44]\u00a0<\/span><b>Katie:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Yeah, we did. Didn&#8217;t we?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:09:45]\u00a0<\/span><b>Jason:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0No, we held a balance for a while.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:09:48]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Hmm?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:09:50]\u00a0<\/span><b>Jason:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Yeah, we held a balance.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:09:52]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0How long a while?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:09:54]\u00a0<\/span><b>Jason:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0I think we were paying that thing out for two or three years.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:09:58]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Three years?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:10:00]\u00a0<\/span><b>Jason:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Yeah.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:10:01]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0How come, out of curiosity? You have pretty good cash flow, right? Why?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:10:07]\u00a0<\/span><b>Jason:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0I guess do the minimum payment.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:10:09]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Y&#8217;all love a minimum, huh?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:10:11]\u00a0<\/span><b>Jason:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0I know. It&#8217;s so dumb.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:10:13]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Why is that?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:10:15]\u00a0<\/span><b>Jason:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0I don&#8217;t like it anymore. Honestly, I hate holding a balance on a credit card, especially if a high interest card.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:10:21]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0But back then, why did you like it?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:10:22]\u00a0<\/span><b>Jason:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0I guess because it felt like we had more money. It just&#8211;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:10:29]\u00a0<\/span><b>Katie:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Prolonged it.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:10:30]\u00a0<\/span><b>Jason:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Brads it out. Prolongs it.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:10:32]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0All right. So you got out of debt, paid off the student loans, immediately bought a house, then get furniture, which took a few years to pay off. And then what?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:10:44]\u00a0<\/span><b>Jason:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0And then we had to have new windows.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:10:46]\u00a0<\/span><b>Katie:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Yeah, because our house&#8211;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:10:48]\u00a0<\/span><b>Jason:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0For the house. Yeah.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:10:49]\u00a0<\/span><b>Katie:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Yeah, our house needed new windows. They had no screens on them.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:10:55]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Hmm? What&#8217;s the problem? Sorry. I&#8217;m a son of immigrants. I&#8217;m like, &#8220;Where&#8217;s the problem with this?&#8221; No screen?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:11:00]\u00a0<\/span><b>Jason:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0And we&#8217;re in Minnesota. It gets down to negative 20, and they were drafty.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:11:05]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0So they were cold.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:11:07]\u00a0<\/span><b>Jason:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0It was cold. Yeah.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:11:08]\u00a0<\/span><b>Katie:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Yeah.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:11:10]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Hold on, hold on. If my parents were listening right now, they&#8217;d be like, &#8220;How cold?&#8221; They&#8217;d be like, &#8220;How many coats do you have? Just throw them on.&#8221; And that&#8217;s the solution. All right. you fixed the windows. That cost what? 10 grand? How much?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:11:23]\u00a0<\/span><b>Katie:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a055, 55 grand.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:11:26]\u00a0<\/span><b>Jason:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Yeah.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:11:27]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Can you explain that? Am I out of touch? Oh, you have a 3,000 square foot house.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:11:33]\u00a0<\/span><b>Jason:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Yeah.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:11:34]\u00a0<\/span><b>Katie:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Yeah.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:11:34]\u00a0<\/span><b>Jason:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Almost all the windows were replaced. Yeah.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:11:36]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0And did you finance that?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:11:38]\u00a0<\/span><b>Katie:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0We did, yes.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:11:40]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0I&#8217;m just trying to understand, like, did you have a conversation where you were like, &#8220;Hey, this is annoying.&#8221; Annoying, but it&#8217;s going to cost $55,000-plus interest. How annoying is it?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:11:53]\u00a0<\/span><b>Jason:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0I remember having the meeting with the guy that sold us the windows or whatever, and he told us the number, and I&#8217;m pretty sure, Ramit, that I was just like, &#8220;It fits. We can do the minimum payment.&#8221;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:12:10]\u00a0<\/span><b>Katie:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0And he really convinced us that it would add equity to our house.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:12:16]\u00a0<\/span><b>Jason:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Yeah.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:12:18]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Hold on.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:12:19]\u00a0<\/span><b>Jason:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Are you saying it&#8217;s not going to add that, Ramit?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:12:24]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Katie, can you explain the $55,000 you spent? If you sell your house today, are you going to get $55,000 back for your windows? No?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:12:33]\u00a0<\/span><b>Katie:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0No.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:12:33]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a050? 45?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:12:37]\u00a0<\/span><b>Katie:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0I don&#8217;t even know. I think he said a percentage.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:12:42]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Oh, your window guy was giving you financial advice. What a shock. Don&#8217;t take financial advice from window guys. That&#8217;s pretty much the lesson of today so far. All right. What&#8217;s done is done. All right. You got the windows, so now you&#8217;re back in debt.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:12:55]\u00a0<\/span><b>Katie:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Mm-hmm.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:12:56]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0You&#8217;re back in tens of thousands of dollars of debt. You were making the payments, you were good. What happened next?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:13:03]\u00a0<\/span><b>Katie:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Then we bought a car. We got a Kia Telluride.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:13:09]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0This sounds reasonable. What&#8217;s the problem?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:13:12]\u00a0<\/span><b>Jason:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0We went for the top.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:13:13]\u00a0<\/span><b>Katie:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0The cycle of it.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:13:14]\u00a0<\/span><b>Jason:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0We went for the top trim.\u00a0All the bells and whistles.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:13:16]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Oh. How much did this thing cost?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:13:18]\u00a0<\/span><b>Jason:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a062.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:13:21]\u00a0<\/span><b>Katie:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Yeah.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:13:21]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0$62,000 for a Kia? What the\u00a0[Bleep]? Yo, I am out of touch.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:13:29]\u00a0<\/span><b>Jason:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0It&#8217;s an SUV. It&#8217;s an SUV. Yeah.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:13:32]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Of course, it&#8217;s an SUV. We need one for the baby, right?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:13:37]\u00a0<\/span><b>Jason:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0That was our thought, yeah. Initially, yeah.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:13:40]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0What do you notice as you tell me this story from the last five or so years? What are the patterns?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:13:47]\u00a0<\/span><b>Katie:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0We just added more and more.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:13:50]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Mm-hmm.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:13:50]\u00a0<\/span><b>Katie:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Yeah.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:13:51]\u00a0<\/span><b>Jason:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Yeah.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:13:51]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0What else?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:13:54]\u00a0<\/span><b>Katie:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0We&#8217;re going for thing that we don&#8217;t need.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:14:01]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0I think that&#8217;s probably true. Discretionary items. Again, we all get discretionary items. Every single one of us is wearing something discretionary. We don&#8217;t need the clothes that we are wearing. I don&#8217;t have anything against discretionary items. I don&#8217;t even have anything against a 62,000-dollar car, frankly. But it&#8217;s the decisions that we make and the way we make those decisions that can put us in trouble.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:14:26]\u00a0<\/span><b>Jason:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Yeah.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:14:27]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Jason, what do you notice about the way that you have made financial decisions, both of you?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:14:31]\u00a0<\/span><b>Jason:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Impulsive.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:14:33]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Okay. What else?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:14:34]\u00a0<\/span><b>Katie:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Based on the monthly payments and we&#8217;re not looking at the total loan amount.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:14:41]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Total cost of ownership, TCO. It&#8217;s not just the total amount, it&#8217;s actually the TCO. Because when you bought the house, you didn&#8217;t consider the windows, and you didn&#8217;t consider the furniture and all. That&#8217;s TCO, all of that. Had you known that or even modeled it out a bit, like, &#8220;Hey, the day we walk in here, where are we going to sleep? Oh [Bleep], need to buy a bed. And we need to book for all the bedrooms. Oh my God. Couches.&#8221;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:15:06]\u00a0Then you would&#8217;ve start to be like, &#8220;Whoa, let&#8217;s pause for a second.&#8221; Okay. All right. And then I noticed one other thing in terms of your decision making. It&#8217;s very based on stories. We need a house. We need to go from one-bedroom apartment to a 3,000 square foot house because we&#8217;re ready to start a family. This is story that we are all fed in America basically from the day we&#8217;re born. Your parents have been saying it. Their parents have been saying it, and on and on and on. Right?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:15:37]\u00a0<\/span><b>Katie:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Mm-hmm.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:15:39]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0When I asked you like, &#8220;Hey, why a house?&#8221; There was no more thinking beyond, we&#8217;re ready to start a family. So let&#8217;s bring it to today. You have the car, the Kia. You have the windows. You have the furniture and all that stuff.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:15:59]\u00a0<\/span><b>Katie:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Mm-hmm.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:15:59]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Take me through now to the last year and a half, two years.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:16:02]\u00a0<\/span><b>Jason:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Oh.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:16:04]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Look at the smile on Katie&#8217;s face. Go ahead, Katie. Tell us.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:16:07]\u00a0<\/span><b>Katie:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0It&#8217;s a big story. Back in May now, I think, we smelt a dead animal in our walls. Had no idea where this animal was coming from. We dealt with it for probably two weeks, and it was unbearable. We didn&#8217;t want to be on the main level of our house. We were worried about the health of our child. And we had some people come out to clean our vents, which we cash flowed.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:16:46]\u00a0They didn&#8217;t find a dead animal in the vents. And then we had two different pest control companies come out and try to find it. Couldn&#8217;t find it. But they did notice like a tunnel that was leading underneath our concrete slab in our backyard. And so a family friend came out and jack hammered part of our deck and found a half decomposed possum.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:17:15]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Oh my God.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:17:16]\u00a0<\/span><b>Katie:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Right up against the edge of our house and under this concrete slab. And immediately the smell was gone. Within 12 hours the smell was gone, and we were super grateful, but we had a half broken up concrete patio in the backyard. Our deck was now sliced.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:17:35]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0How much did it cost?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:17:38]\u00a0<\/span><b>Katie:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0$4,500. And so luckily he is a family friend and not a contractor that we would&#8217;ve had to pay all in one lump sum. So we&#8217;re paying him 1,500 a month for three months just to get it.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:17:55]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0When you bought a house, did you factor in the&#8211; Jason&#8217;s already shaking his head. I&#8217;m not even asked the question yet. I&#8217;m not trying to trap you. I&#8217;m legitimately curious. I&#8217;m not asking about the deck. Nobody could have predicted a possum would die in there.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:18:09]\u00a0<\/span><b>Jason:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Okay. Yeah.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:18:10]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0And I&#8217;m sorry to the possum too. That sounds horrific, particularly horrific. When you buy a house, there is a typical calculation that&#8217;s often done that maintenance will cost between 1 to 3% of the price of the house per year. Had you ever heard that, or did you factor that in?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:18:31]\u00a0<\/span><b>Jason:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0No, I don&#8217;t think so.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:18:33]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0How much was the house?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:18:35]\u00a0<\/span><b>Jason:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0450,000.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:18:37]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Now that know, 1 to 3%, which would be roughly 4 or $5,000 to $15,000 approximately per year, how does that sound to you? And would you be able to set that money aside forever?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:18:50]\u00a0<\/span><b>Jason:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0I think the goal is to have an emergency fund for that kind of thing in the future. Yeah.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:18:56]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Ah.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:18:57]\u00a0<\/span><b>Katie:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0But right now, we couldn&#8217;t do it.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:18:58]\u00a0<\/span><b>Jason:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Not right now, no.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:18:59]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0What is the state of your backyard now?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:19:02]\u00a0<\/span><b>Jason:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Shambles.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:19:03]\u00a0<\/span><b>Katie:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Yeah, there&#8217;s weed garden, a big dirt pile basically. And it&#8217;s just going to be that way until we could afford it.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[Narration]<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:19:12]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Jason and Katie talk about money every single day. Every grocery run, every night out, even buying onesies for their nine-month-old, they have a conversation about it.\u00a0Now I know on this show, you understand most people do not talk about money enough, so you might be like,\u00a0&#8220;Hey, that&#8217;s great. Good for them.&#8221;\u00a0Wrong.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:19:30]\u00a0Talking about money every single day is freaking exhausting. You think I\u00a0want to\u00a0ask my wife about buying toothpaste, or should Katie have to ask permission before she buys her daughter a coloring book?\u00a0No, it feels suffocating.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:19:42]\u00a0The worst part is they&#8217;re talking and talking, but the numbers are not really getting better. Okay,\u00a0yes, they paid off 120k in student loans, which is great.\u00a0But then the house, then the furniture, then the car, then the 55,000-dollar\u00a0windows, and then of course the thousands of dollars to unearth a dead possum decomposing under their now destroyed deck.\u00a0It all stinks.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:20:02]\u00a0This is the modern American money story. You&#8217;re working hard.\u00a0You&#8217;re doing what you&#8217;re supposed to do.\u00a0And somehow you are still behind. Is it because you&#8217;re lazy? No, I don&#8217;t think so. I think in general a lot of people work really hard and yes, the system is rigged against everyday people, especially the poor and middle class.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:20:21]\u00a0But let&#8217;s also be honest.\u00a0They have never learned how money works. There are tons of books available at every public library in the country. In fact, that&#8217;s why I wrote my book,\u00a0Money for Couples. It shows you how to stop obsessing over every receipt and start building a plan where you can actually connect with your partner.\u00a0I have a free chapter available for you right now to download\u00a0at\u00a0iwt.com\/mfcpreview.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:20:48]\u00a0What I can tell you is that Jason and Katie do not need another freaking budget category.\u00a0They don&#8217;t need to talk about every purchase. What they need is a real plan.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[Interview]<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:21:00]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0All right. Let&#8217;s take a look at the CSP. Jason, can you read the word in bold and then the number in full next to it for this entire net worth box please?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:21:10]\u00a0<\/span><b>Jason:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Yes.\u00a0Assets, $554,500. Investments,\u00a0$118,601. Savings, 2,200. Debt, $419,676, leaving a net worth of $255,625.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:21:32]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0What do you think about those numbers?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:21:34]\u00a0<\/span><b>Jason:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0They&#8217;re low for where I&#8217;d rather be for our age especially the net worth. And I know that most of that is the house, and we barely have equity on the house. That&#8217;s getting us above that zero net worth.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:21:53]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0What do you think, Katie?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:21:54]\u00a0<\/span><b>Katie:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Yeah, it&#8217;s definitely lower than we want to be.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:21:59]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Okay. Let&#8217;s take a look at the income. This time, Katie, I&#8217;m going to ask you,\u00a0can you read your gross combined monthly income please?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:22:09]\u00a0<\/span><b>Katie:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0It&#8217;s 20,500.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:22:11]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Okay. So combine the two of you in your household make $246,000 per year. Who knew that number? Both. Both are putting their hands&#8211; I believe you. Well done. I believe you. Well done. Again, 50% of people on this show do not even know their household income, but both of you do. That&#8217;s great. Is that because you talk about money regularly?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:22:34]\u00a0<\/span><b>Katie:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Mm-hmm.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:22:34]\u00a0<\/span><b>Jason:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Yeah, I think so.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:22:35]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0All right. Your take home is 13,321. How do you feel about those numbers in terms of income?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:22:42]\u00a0<\/span><b>Jason:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0They&#8217;re fantastic.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:22:43]\u00a0<\/span><b>Katie:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Good. Yeah, we have great income.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:22:45]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Wow. Finally a rich couple who acknowledges they make a lot of money. Wow.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:22:51]\u00a0<\/span><b>Jason:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0We feel blessed, honestly.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:22:53]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Fantastic. All right. And just for the breakdown here, both of you make a similar amount of money. Jason makes 10,833 a month gross. Katie makes 9,667. So very close to each other in terms of income. Fantastic. And I see you&#8217;re doing some pre-tax. What are you doing? 401(k)s?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:23:15]\u00a0<\/span><b>Jason:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Yeah, it&#8217;s just 401(k)s, an extra 5% on top of what we get. Our boss just throws in 3% for us, and I&#8217;m doing 5% on top of that just to have something rolling.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:23:31]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0You&#8217;re not maxing it out though?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:23:33]\u00a0<\/span><b>Jason:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0No, not currently.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:23:34]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Because of cashflow needs.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:23:36]\u00a0<\/span><b>Jason:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0That&#8217;s the goal, to max it out, for sure.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:23:38]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Okay, cool. Let&#8217;s take a look at the rest. Katie,\u00a0your fixed costs, what&#8217;s this number here?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:23:45]\u00a0<\/span><b>Katie:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a083%.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:23:46]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a083% fixed costs on $246,000 income? We&#8217;re going to come back to that.\u00a0Investments, 0.\u00a0Mm, not great. I know you have some 401(k), so that helps, but overall, with this type of income, I like to see a little bit more, quite a bit more actually.\u00a0Savings are at 1%. Huh? And that 1% is\u00a0$100\u00a0a month for gifts. Okay. And then finally, \u200aguilt-free\u00a0spending is at 16% or\u00a0$2,098\u00a0per month. Is this number accurate?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:24:20]\u00a0<\/span><b>Jason:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0It&#8217;s actually really accurate.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:24:22]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Okay. I believe it. All right. So the good news is we have accurate numbers. That&#8217;s great. But we got a bigger problem than a lack of precision. We got 83% on fixed costs. Jason, what do you think?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:24:37]\u00a0<\/span><b>Jason:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Yeah, it&#8217;s that whole cashflow thing. Honestly, it&#8217;s going out every month instead of staying with us and building something.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:24:49]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Okay. What do you both do for a living?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:24:50]\u00a0<\/span><b>Katie:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0We both work at the same company. We&#8217;re in content creation, so I&#8217;m a producer and project manager, account manager. And then Jason is a 3D animator.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:25:05]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Okay, great. How do you evaluate the risk of both being employed at the same company?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:25:13]\u00a0<\/span><b>Jason:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Yeah, that&#8217;s a tricky question actually, because with the advent of AI and everything, especially being content creation, video animation, all that stuff is starting to be able to be done by $100 a month and a prompt. And so it&#8217;s just a little bit scary knowing that we do have this big income now, but in the future it might not be there because the need for our product is decreasing.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:25:48]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0So I hear two levels of risk at least. One is you have skills that may be getting replaced by AI. And two, you both work at the same company, which is a very high amount of concentrated risk. It happens. The good news is you&#8217;re making a lot of money. But if I were in your position, one thing that I try to do is take a look at risk. And where there are big pockets of risk, how do we evaluate a way?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:26:16]\u00a0Because I don&#8217;t ever want to get in a position where my wife and I both get laid off from the same company at the same time, where we have really high fixed costs. My reaction to that would be, &#8220;Damn, we better build a fat emergency fund. Because it&#8217;s only a matter of time until a company contracts. Every company does. And we do not want to be on the rough end of that decision.&#8221; All right. Let&#8217;s take a look at the rest of the numbers here. You have $2,200 in savings. That&#8217;s really tight.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:26:49]\u00a0<\/span><b>Jason:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0That&#8217;s literally just a basic emergency fund.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:26:52]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Your emergency fund wouldn&#8217;t last you even a week.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:26:55]\u00a0<\/span><b>Jason:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0I know. Yeah. It&#8217;s meant to just do very, very minor things right now. The goal is to get a 40, 50,000-dollar emergency fund once all of this stuff is paid down.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:27:08]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Yeah, I agree. But can I ask you something? You have major amounts of risk in your financial situation. Employed at the same company, 83% fixed costs, basically no emergency fund. Yet you&#8217;re tracking everything down to the penny. Is it working?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:27:24]\u00a0<\/span><b>Jason:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0The tracking right now is working to make sure that we stay on target with paying off our debt, but it&#8217;s not working as far as building something. Because everything&#8217;s going out.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:27:37]\u00a0<\/span><b>Katie:\u00a0<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Building the savings.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:27:39]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0So you&#8217;re tracking extremely intentionally. I find this with a lot of people who love budgets. I find this with a lot of people who are in the frugality community. They&#8217;re really proud of their ability to track. They&#8217;re really good at tracking. But by tracking every single number very, very carefully, they actually do not zoom out and look at the big picture.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:28:09]\u00a0I could be tracking myself into doom. Is it working? The answer surely is no. If I&#8217;m tracking myself into having less than a week&#8217;s worth of an emergency fund, this is not working. I don&#8217;t care if you know the price of freaking apples. You have no emergency fund. That&#8217;s not working.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:28:27]\u00a0<\/span><b>Jason:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Yeah.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:28:27]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0What do you think of that?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:28:29]\u00a0<\/span><b>Katie:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0We have done a projection plan to see what it would look like once we&#8217;re debt-free again. The plan is to be debt-free by, what, March, April of next year. And then we did a projection to see how much catch up we need to do as far as investments.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:28:58]\u00a0<\/span><b>Jason:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0And how quickly we can build that emergency fund.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:29:00]\u00a0<\/span><b>Katie:\u00a0<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Yeah.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:29:01]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0And what&#8217;s the answer?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:29:03]\u00a0<\/span><b>Jason:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0I think we could probably build that emergency fund in a year and a half once our debt is gone.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:29:09]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Okay, how&#8217;d you feel about that?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:29:12]\u00a0<\/span><b>Jason:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0It feels fine, but it&#8217;s still going to mean that the cash flow is&#8211;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:29:18]\u00a0<\/span><b>Katie:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Still tied up.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:29:20]\u00a0<\/span><b>Jason:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Tied up by this emergency fund, but at least it&#8217;s going positive and not, negative.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:29:26]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0What about the behavioral part of it? Every time you have paid off your debt, you&#8217;ve gotten right back into debt. Why is it going to be any different this time?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:29:34]\u00a0<\/span><b>Katie:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0It&#8217;s going to be.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:29:35]\u00a0<\/span><b>Jason:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0It has to be.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:29:37]\u00a0<\/span><b>Katie:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0It has to be.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:29:39]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0I hate to say it, but that was probably the least convincing answer I&#8217;ve ever heard. It&#8217;s going to be. It has to be. I&#8217;m like, &#8220;Okay. How?&#8221;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:29:47]\u00a0<\/span><b>Jason:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0We&#8217;re really trying to change our habits around it.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:29:51]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Tell me.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:29:51]\u00a0<\/span><b>Jason:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0We haven&#8217;t taken any big debts out in the past few years. All this stuff, like I said, is our past demons that we&#8217;re paying down, barring the backyard construction.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[Narration]<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:30:05]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Okay,\u00a0everyone says this time will be different. Jason says it right now. He&#8217;s tracking every expense. He&#8217;s got a debt-free plan. He swears his habits are changing. Maybe. I hope so.\u00a0But I examine behavior. I study patterns.\u00a0And right now all I hear are Jason&#8217;s own words from just a few weeks ago telling me exactly how he could fall right back into a cycle of debt.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:30:32]\u00a0Listen to this phrase.\u00a0&#8220;Why is it going to be different this time?&#8221;\u00a0If you are trying to make a change and you&#8217;ve tried something before, whether it&#8217;s your money or beginning a fitness journey, or anything that matters to you, ask yourself that question.\u00a0Why is it going to be different this time? You need to have a crisp, specific answer if you truly want to be successful at making a change.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[Interview]<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:30:58]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Jason, you wrote this in your application. You wrote, &#8220;Now that we have a dirt pile in our backyard, my wife plays small with what it could become when talking to a landscape designer. She scoffs at the fun stuff I mentioned because she just sees the dollar signs, not the dream backyard it could be.&#8221;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:31:25]\u00a0<\/span><b>Jason:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0I know why you&#8217;re saying that. Because ultimately, that sounds like we&#8217;re going to go into more debt to renovate our backyard, but that&#8217;s not the case. We&#8217;re going to be saving for that.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:31:40]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0So when you have an extra 1 or 2,000 or however much per month of cashflow, you&#8217;re not going to look out your back window and see all those weeds and the jack hammered concrete and go, &#8220;We should fix that? It&#8217;ll only cost us 400 bucks a month.&#8221;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:31:57]\u00a0<\/span><b>Jason:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0No.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:31:57]\u00a0<\/span><b>Katie:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0No. Because we already said that we&#8217;re going to do a tiered approach. We&#8217;re going to get estimates. We&#8217;re going to do just the base level, like, just get a patio. Basic stuff. And then do the next phase, next phase once we have cashflow built up.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:32:21]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Can you guys stop using the word cashflow?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:32:23]\u00a0<\/span><b>Jason:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Sorry.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:32:23]\u00a0<\/span><b>Katie:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Sorry.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:32:25]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0It&#8217;s not the word. It&#8217;s people who use the word cashflow throw off major red flags, major. Let me tell you why I&#8217;m saying this. The idea that you are using with cashflow is as long as we have money coming in, then we have cashflow so that we can spend it.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:32:46]\u00a0You&#8217;re treating it like money is a river and we have some extra water coming in. Let&#8217;s divert it and use the water. The whole concept of cashflow, which I can tell you&#8217;ve been inculcated with, is in some ways helpful. You should know how much cash you have coming in and out. Yes.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:33:03]\u00a0But people who use the word cash flow as much as you, especially you Jason, they tend to not focus on net worth. They tend to not look for long-term investments, savings, or even spending on big stuff in the future, like a really nice house or vacation or whatever it is they love. They just look at the short-term, month to month cashflow. Do you notice that pattern with how you both look at money?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:33:33]\u00a0<\/span><b>Katie:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Mm-hmm.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:33:34]\u00a0<\/span><b>Jason:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0In the past, for sure.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:33:36]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0How about right now? Because you just talked about cash flow with the patio.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:33:40]\u00a0<\/span><b>Jason:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Yeah, you&#8217;re right. Yeah, definitely the phrase maybe in the past has been like, we have that. We have the cash flow. Let&#8217;s do it, type of thing. But I want it to mean that this cash flow can go towards savings in the future or saving for something in the future. And that cash flow&#8211; sorry, I keep saying it. I keep saying it.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:34:05]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0I would just ban the word cashflow.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:34:06]\u00a0<\/span><b>Jason:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Sorry, I keep saying it.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:34:07]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:\u00a0<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I just won&#8217;t use it.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:34:11]\u00a0<\/span><b>Jason:\u00a0<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">What can I say instead?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:34:12]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Jason, do you know why you keep saying it?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:34:14]\u00a0<\/span><b>Jason:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0It&#8217;s ingrained in me.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:34:15]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Why? Why do you keep saying cashflow? What does it get you? What does cashflow get you?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:34:17]\u00a0<\/span><b>Jason:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Options.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:34:19]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Yeah. What else?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:34:23]\u00a0<\/span><b>Jason:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Yeah, it just allows you to breathe a little, I think.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:34:31]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0I think that your worldview of money, using the word cashflow, is as long as we have enough coming in and we&#8217;re spending below that going out, we&#8217;re okay.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:34:43]\u00a0<\/span><b>Jason:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Yeah.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:34:45]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0That&#8217;s your view. And Katie, you&#8217;re nodding too. That&#8217;s basically most Americans&#8217; view of money, it&#8217;s a very simplistic way of looking at the world. If we have money coming in and we&#8217;re spending less than that going out, we are okay. In fact, we see it in the CSP. You are way over spending on fixed costs. But guess what? We know our exact amount of guilt-free spending. We&#8217;re tracking everything. Our cash flow is okay, so we&#8217;re fine.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:35:19]\u00a0<\/span><b>Jason:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Yeah.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:35:19]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0But you are missing all of the nuances of money, especially when you have very high holding costs with a house, a car, a baby, all this stuff. You&#8217;re missing that expenses do not just appear on a monthly basis. You have a 55,000-dollar discretionary purchase you make that now gets financed over many, many, many months. You have emergencies that come up like a dead possum. Cash flow, that view alone does not solve these problems. You need a more sophisticated way of looking at money, a more savvy way of looking at money. Do you see that?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:35:56]\u00a0<\/span><b>Jason:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0I agree. Yeah, that&#8217;s true.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:35:57]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0So I would probably take off the cashflow lenses. It&#8217;s not serving you anymore. We need to develop a savvier way of developing a relationship with money and probably our decisions with money. That&#8217;s another reason that you did the minimums on everything, because you looked at cashflow.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:36:15]\u00a0<\/span><b>Jason:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Mm-hmm.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:36:16]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0A savvier view would be, let&#8217;s look at TCO, TCO, total cost of ownership. Does this couch, which appears to cost, I don&#8217;t know, 3,000 bucks&#8211; but when we factor everything in, including interest, delivery, fee maintenance, all of it, that&#8217;s actually $5,500. Do we want a $5,500 couch right now? That&#8217;s how we want to approach money.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[Narration]<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:36:39]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Jason and Katie bring home an amazing income, but the status of their money tells a different story. 83% of it goes to fixed costs. Their savings wouldn&#8217;t last a week. And also, have you noticed how they cannot stop saying the word cashflow? For me, whenever I hear cashflow like 20 times over and over, it&#8217;s a big red flag.\u00a0Just so you know, cashflow is basically money in money out.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:37:00]\u00a0When you&#8217;re making a quarter million dollars but still don&#8217;t have a lot of money left over,\u00a0focusing on cashflow can seem like the right decision, but obviously it&#8217;s not working.\u00a0So maybe there&#8217;s a different way to look at their finances.\u00a0Like the fact maybe that they&#8217;re living the typical all-American debt story&#8211; babies, cars, big houses swallowing up huge incomes,\u00a0while the big picture gets lost in tiny details. Now you and I know that these habits come from somewhere. Let&#8217;s find out how they both grew up with money.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[Interview]<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:37:34]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Katie, can we go back to your childhood, and let&#8217;s think back to what your family said about money when you were young? What phrases do you remember?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:37:45]\u00a0<\/span><b>Katie:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0We can&#8217;t afford it. Yet I felt like my entire childhood I was given what I needed. We went to restaurants. We went on vacations. My brother and I both played sports and I did dance. So I never felt limited in my childhood. But I did hear that phrase like, &#8220;We can&#8217;t afford it,&#8221; quite often.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:38:11]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Who said it?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:38:13]\u00a0<\/span><b>Katie:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0My mom.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:38:14]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0What was your dad in this? What was his relationship with money in your family?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:38:19]\u00a0<\/span><b>Katie:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Basically if I wanted something, I would ask my dad, and he would always give in and give me what I asked for, I guess.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:38:28]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0What&#8217;d you take away from that?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:38:30]\u00a0<\/span><b>Katie:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Instant gratification. That I got what I wanted when I asked for it.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:38:35]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Do you think you&#8217;ve carried that financial lesson into this relationship?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:38:40]\u00a0<\/span><b>Katie:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Probably. Yeah. One time Jason and I were at a home garden center with my parents and both my mom and I wanted a certain bird feeder for our houses, and my mom and I both had the same, like, &#8220;Oh, can we get it,&#8221; kind of thing. And Jason&#8217;s like, &#8220;This is exactly where you get it from.&#8221;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:39:09]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Whoa.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:39:10]\u00a0<\/span><b>Katie:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0We both did not leave with said bird feeder, but we both had the same&#8211;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:39:17]\u00a0<\/span><b>Jason:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Reaction.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:39:18]\u00a0<\/span><b>Katie:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Yeah.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:39:19]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Can you deconstruct it for me? So what do you think was going on there? If you zoom up almost like you&#8217;re a omniscient observer and you look down at yourself and your mom both employing the same tactic, analyze it for me.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:39:35]\u00a0<\/span><b>Katie:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0We were both asking for permission to get something.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:39:39]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Permission from whom?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:39:41]\u00a0<\/span><b>Katie:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0From our spouse.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:39:42]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Mm-hmm. Why?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:39:44]\u00a0<\/span><b>Katie:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Because it was a want, not a need. What we were asking for, we knew it was something that we didn&#8217;t absolutely need, so we were asking for permission.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:39:55]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Okay. And what about if you need something? Do you ask them for permission?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:40:01]\u00a0<\/span><b>Katie:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0I do. But that&#8217;s just because we&#8217;re&#8211; I can&#8217;t speak for my mom, but I do just because we&#8217;re trying to be really conscious about our spending.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:40:14]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0So do you think that there&#8217;s a day where you will not ask for permission for something you need?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:40:23]\u00a0<\/span><b>Katie:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0I think so.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:40:24]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0What&#8217;s that day?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:40:27]\u00a0<\/span><b>Katie:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0I would say once we have a really good savings. We&#8217;re fully investing or maxing out our investments. Our savings are in a good place. And the rest of our funds are not tied up in other ways. Until I feel really good about what&#8217;s remaining, I guess, in our monthly budget.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:40:58]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Sorry. Was it a certain number that you need to achieve, or was it you feeling really good? Which one?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:41:06]\u00a0<\/span><b>Katie:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0I don&#8217;t have a set number, no.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:41:10]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Is it possible that you will always ask for permission for even things you need?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:41:18]\u00a0<\/span><b>Katie:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0It&#8217;s definitely possible because that&#8217;s how it&#8217;s always been.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:41:22]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Do you want to?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:41:23]\u00a0<\/span><b>Katie:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0No.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:41:24]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0You don&#8217;t want to ask for permission?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:41:27]\u00a0<\/span><b>Katie:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0I want to have a conversation about it because I think it&#8217;s a respectful thing to do because it&#8217;s not just my money.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:41:36]\u00a0<\/span><b>Jason:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0We talk about stuff. We communicate about that. And it&#8217;s not permission as much as it is just having a conversation.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:41:47]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Do you know that I don&#8217;t have these conversations with my wife? Not at all. Not the ones that you&#8217;re having. I&#8217;m not saying yours are wrong or I&#8217;m right. I&#8217;m not saying that at all. I&#8217;m just saying it&#8217;s quite striking the different types of conversations that we have.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:42:02]\u00a0<\/span><b>Jason:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Yeah.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:42:02]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0If my wife sees something she wants or needs, she&#8217;s buying it. I don&#8217;t usually even know about it. But the conversations we have are, what is the percentage of our take home pay that we are investing? That&#8217;s a conversation we have. How much do we want to put aside for major things coming up next year, such as travel or whatever it is that&#8217;s important to us? Those are the conversations we have. How does that strike you hearing that?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:42:34]\u00a0<\/span><b>Jason:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0It sounds amazing. That&#8217;s the goal.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:42:37]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0What? What? This is quite shocking. How come you&#8217;re both amazed? You just spent two hours defending how you&#8217;re great communicators about money. What do you mean?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:42:45]\u00a0<\/span><b>Katie:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0In the current phase that we&#8217;re in, I really like the way that we communicate now. But the way that you and your wife communicate, that would be the goal in the future once we feel really good about where everything else at.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:42:59]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Have you ever heard me say that the way you feel about money is highly uncorrelated to the amount in your bank account?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:43:07]\u00a0<\/span><b>Jason:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Mm-hmm.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:43:08]\u00a0<\/span><b>Katie:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0I haven&#8217;t.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:43:09]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0You make a lot of money. I agree you do not have enough savings in all that stuff, but you&#8217;re going to have a million dollars in net worth, 2 million. You&#8217;re still going to feel the same way about money.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[Narration]<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:43:23]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0You can be meticulous and still broke. Jason and Katie can tell you every number in their budget. They track it all. They don&#8217;t make a purchase without talking about it.\u00a0But guys, it&#8217;s not working. I see this time and time again on this podcast. People obsess over the small stuff,\u00a0and they miss the big picture. They&#8217;re proud of how complicated their budget is. Ooh, it&#8217;s so precise. Yeah. Well, you&#8217;re in $180,000 of debt. What does it matter that you track your corn\u00a0nuts down to the penny?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:43:52]\u00a0Real financial security comes from strategy, not from knowing where every single penny is going. I have to say together, they might actually be too aligned. Same company, same spending habits, same blind spots.\u00a0A lot of people like to say,\u00a0&#8220;We\u00a0want to\u00a0get on the same page.&#8221;\u00a0But if that same page says debt, no savings,\u00a0and being stressed, you do not\u00a0want to\u00a0be on the same page.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:44:15]\u00a0Sometimes having a little bit of antagonism or a little bit of push and pull can actually be really helpful. I\u00a0got to\u00a0tell you,\u00a0that kind of thinking doesn&#8217;t just show up magically when you become an adult.\u00a0It usually starts way earlier with money lessons that we learned in childhood. Now,\u00a0to understand why Jason and Katie make the choices they do today, I\u00a0want to\u00a0go back in time to understand the money messages they received when they were growing up.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[Interview]<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:44:41]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Let&#8217;s go to Jason. Jason, take me back. What do you remember your family saying about money when you were young?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:44:48]\u00a0<\/span><b>Jason:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Yeah. It literally was like, we couldn&#8217;t afford it, and I knew we couldn&#8217;t. We were pretty low income, maybe lower middle class. But it was a conversation where like, we can&#8217;t get it for you, but then a new TV shows up in the house. It was a very selfish use, I guess, of the money that they did have.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:45:16]\u00a0And who knows if that was all on credit or what. But I do remember just little things like, &#8220;No, you can&#8217;t go to the swimming pool today. We don&#8217;t have it. We don&#8217;t have the money.&#8221; And that&#8217;s $2.50 to get into the pool for a day of fun or whatever. To the point where me and my sister would sometimes gather up pop bottles and pop cans and take it to a redemption center and get the cash to go to the pool for the day.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:45:49]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Hmm.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:45:51]\u00a0<\/span><b>Jason:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0It was nice to do the work to get it ourselves, but it would&#8217;ve been nice to just have the $70 a year for a membership or whatever it is so we could go anytime. And so that&#8217;s what we want to give to our daughter, I think, ultimately.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:46:11]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0What is that?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:46:13]\u00a0<\/span><b>Jason:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0The ability to have more experiences, not just sit at home all day during the summer. Actually go out and do things and, I guess, have a good&#8211; not that I didn&#8217;t have a good childhood. Just have a more adventurous childhood, just something more interesting.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:46:40]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0I&#8217;m a little bit puzzled by this ending of your origin story with money. So you&#8217;re like, &#8220;We were lower middle class. My parents also sent mixed messages. They told us they couldn&#8217;t afford like two and a half bucks to go to the pool for an entire day and yet sometimes a new TV would show up.&#8221; It&#8217;s a very confusing set of messages about money.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:47:04]\u00a0You were resourceful. You would go out with your sister and bottles. That was a source of accomplishment for you. I was with you. All of that, I was with you. But then you pivoted to that&#8217;s what we want to do for our daughter. We want to give her more. Which I&#8217;m like, okay. I get that. Every parent says that.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:47:26]\u00a0And yet when I look at your CSP, I actually see the opposite. I see 83% in fixed costs. I see debt upon debt upon debt for things like a 62,000-dollar car, a 2,900-square-foot house. I see so much fixed cost. 55,000-dollar windows, deck, and I see essentially no money left over for experiences with the three of you.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:47:58]\u00a0<\/span><b>Jason:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Yeah.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:47:58]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0How do you reconcile that?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:48:01]\u00a0<\/span><b>Jason:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0I guess all I can say is that&#8217;s the goal, is to get rid of all this monkey on our back. And she&#8217;s a reason that we want to do that. Originally, I didn&#8217;t even want to have kids until we were out of debt. And that was mainly to not be able to have the same childhood as I did. To actually be able to do more. But yeah, I guess looking at our CSP right now, that&#8217;s very true. It doesn&#8217;t look like that&#8217;s what we&#8217;re doing, but it is ultimately the goal.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:48:43]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0What do you think, Katie?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:48:45]\u00a0<\/span><b>Katie:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Yeah. I was going to say that we did get nearly debt-free minus the small amount of my student loans in 2020. And then the goal was to have kids right away. And I think probably, if we were successfully able to have a kid right in 2020, 2021, if we would&#8217;ve had the child before we bought the house and bought the car and did the windows and stuff, if we would&#8217;ve had the child first, then it would&#8217;ve been a reverse. We would&#8217;ve gotten her what she needed and then we would&#8217;ve realized like, we can&#8217;t spend as much on windows, car, etc.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:49:29]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0I actually think it&#8217;s the opposite, Katie. I think that once you had a baby, suddenly the entire world is we have to give her what we didn&#8217;t have. We have to protect her. And so if the window costs 55k, here you go. 60k, fine. Deck, fix it. We don&#8217;t care. We&#8217;ll figure it out because our daughter needs the things we didn&#8217;t have. I think it&#8217;s the opposite of what you think. How does that strike you?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:50:00]\u00a0<\/span><b>Katie:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0I can see how you see it. I can see that.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:50:04]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0What are you realizing as you say this out loud for both of you?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:50:09]\u00a0<\/span><b>Jason:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0I just realized that I&#8217;m done. I&#8217;m ready to not do this anymore.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:50:17]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0I&#8217;m with you, but you&#8217;re not still yet understanding your own motivation. You&#8217;re not understanding why you have made the decisions you&#8217;ve made. In fact, just a minute ago, Katie, you said if we had had a baby, first, we would&#8217;ve been thoughtful and wise and careful with our numbers. I don&#8217;t believe that. So I&#8217;m asking you, what are you realizing as you are saying this out loud? Katie?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:50:41]\u00a0<\/span><b>Katie:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0We have a bad outlook, I guess. We need to do the work now so that when we&#8217;re debt-free come the spring, we just don&#8217;t do this cycle again.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:50:55]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Great insight. And I see Jason nodding over there. Katie, I love what you just said. I totally agree. Can I make a couple of minor tweaks to that that might connect with you? So you said bad. I&#8217;m bad because I spend too much. Bad. This is a very common thing in the Midwest, and I am almost certain you grew up hearing that&#8217;s good and that&#8217;s bad with money.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:51:21]\u00a0Look at the nod on her face. She&#8217;s smiling. It&#8217;s true, right? This is a common thing. And I actually don&#8217;t love this puritanical good and bad view. It actually makes us all walk on eggshells. We feel guilty. We feel a lot of shame. This is common as also with people who grew up religious.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:51:42]\u00a0And the ironic thing is we actually end up spending the money anyway. So you feel bad, but then you spend $55,000 on windows. It&#8217;s actually the worst of all worlds. We might as well develop a healthier relationship with money. I don&#8217;t think you have a bad outlook on money.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:52:04]\u00a0I think that you can develop a savvier outlook with money. And one of the things I notice is that you both ascribe your behavior to certain external things going on. You&#8217;ve done it repeatedly today. You&#8217;ve said, &#8220;Back then we did this.&#8221; And it was like, well, there was this and there was that, and then we got the house. And it&#8217;s always about a time period or something happening.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:52:33]\u00a0You also then move and do the same thing looking forward. Well, once our debt is paid off, then we will magically change. And if I can just be really blunt, you&#8217;re going to be stuck in the same pattern until you take a hard look in the mirror and realize, oh, it&#8217;s actually us. It&#8217;s not tripping and falling in West Elm and getting a credit card to buy a car.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:52:53]\u00a0It&#8217;s not that. It&#8217;s us. It&#8217;s not us tripping and falling and spending $55,000 on windows. It&#8217;s us. And if we don&#8217;t acknowledge that and get honest about it, we&#8217;re just going to find ourselves in the exact same situation we&#8217;ve been in for the last decade.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[Narration]<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:53:12]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0When you put Jason&#8217;s story next to Katie&#8217;s, there are a lot of parallels. Both grew up with confusing messages about money, and now as adults, they are repeating them in new ways.\u00a0Jason doesn&#8217;t even realize that he&#8217;s running the same playbook as his dad. He&#8217;s refusing small everyday joys while making massive, inconsistent purchases.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:53:33]\u00a0Think about it. What&#8217;s really the difference between saying no to a 2-dollar\u00a0pool pass back then and no to a 20-dollar\u00a0baby outfit today all while dropping tens of thousands of dollars on cars and windows for a 3,000-square-foot house.\u00a0This is the real trap of childhood money lessons.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:53:53]\u00a0One, we don&#8217;t examine them. Two, we think we&#8217;re doing something different, but unless we really study them closely, we often end up recreating the same patterns in our life.\u00a0And that&#8217;s the challenge they&#8217;re facing right now as they start to connect the dots between their childhoods and the way that they handle money\u00a0today.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[Interview]<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:54:11]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Thinking back to your upbringing with money, how do you think your upbringing affected your view of money today?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:54:18]\u00a0<\/span><b>Katie:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Well, growing up, I got what I wanted when I asked for it. I think that I can do that now when I ask for it.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:54:29]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Wow. Tell me more. That&#8217;s pretty insightful.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:54:34]\u00a0<\/span><b>Katie:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0I think that&#8217;s probably why I asked Jason, because then it&#8217;s the same as me asking my dad. And now I&#8217;m just asking Jason.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:54:47]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Wow. So I noticed you just took a very deep breath in and out. Tell me what&#8217;s going on, Katie. What are you realizing?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:54:54]\u00a0<\/span><b>Katie:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0I&#8217;m realizing that I&#8217;m repeating a cycle that I did growing up as a child and now I&#8217;m doing it as an adult, and I need to change my habits.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:55:07]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Maybe. Why would you? You get what you want. We want house, and we want the windows, and we want the this and the that. Why would you stop?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:55:17]\u00a0<\/span><b>Katie:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0I think now we just have bigger goals.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:55:21]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Oh. Like what?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:55:23]\u00a0<\/span><b>Katie:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Like investing so that we can retire. We want to obviously have a savings so that if something were to happen, one of our jobs or both of our jobs, like you said, just so we have more security. I think that&#8217;s way more important to us now than a new couch or&#8211; I barely even want to buy clothes for myself anymore.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:55:52]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0When you were growing up, did your mom buy clothes for herself?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:55:59]\u00a0<\/span><b>Katie:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0I think so, but probably not a lot. She still only buys what she needs, I would say, for clothes.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:56:06]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Do you see yourself unconsciously adopting the same patterns as your mom?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:56:10]\u00a0<\/span><b>Katie:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Yes.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:56:11]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0What do you see?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:56:14]\u00a0<\/span><b>Katie:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Caring more about others than myself.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:56:19]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Yes. It&#8217;s a classic thing for moms, especially Midwest moms. And you even said it as a point of pride. Like, &#8220;For me, I don&#8217;t even need to buy clothes.&#8221; You&#8217;re shifting right into that, and it coincides perfectly with the arrival of your daughter. I don&#8217;t need it for me. Me, I&#8217;ll just sacrifice. I&#8217;m a martyr.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:56:33]\u00a0We&#8217;ll devote all of our resources to our baby, all of them, giving her things she likely doesn&#8217;t even need. But we have created a story that she needs them. She needs a 2,900-square-foot house, a nine-month-old. She needs an SUV, a nine-month-old.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:56:50]\u00a0Soon she&#8217;s going to need all the things that the typical American parent spends all of their money on, not actually stopping to say like, &#8220;What does she need? What does she want? And also, what do we want to set a great example for our daughter.&#8221; Katie, you&#8217;re right on the cusp of giving up the things you actually want for no reason.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:57:18]\u00a0<\/span><b>Katie:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Mm-hmm. Yeah. I know that that&#8217;s the case because I turned Jason down when we talked about the backyard. If he talks about wanting to go on a vacation a year from now, I&#8217;m like, &#8220;We can&#8217;t afford it.&#8221;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:57:36]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Where did we hear that before? Who said that prior?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:57:39]\u00a0<\/span><b>Katie:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0My mom. He even set money in our budget for me to get clothes for myself postpartum, and slowly I ate away from that budget, not for clothes for myself, but for things for her daughter. And I know that that&#8217;s the pattern. Yeah.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:58:00]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0I hate this. I hate this for everybody, but especially for moms, especially for women, because I see it too often. They put everybody else first, and they have reshaped this into a virtue. I&#8217;m virtuous because I&#8217;m giving more to my daughter, to my spouse, to my family.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:58:20]\u00a0And I go, &#8220;We need to reprioritize.&#8221; Because actually for a family, it&#8217;s important for them to see their mom spending on the things she loves to be inspiring for herself. Whether that be taking a one hour walk, getting childcare for a half evening, whatever. It&#8217;s important for dads too, but specifically for moms because I just see it too much. Katie, this is, I can tell, very much resonating with you.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:58:46]\u00a0<\/span><b>Katie:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Very much so. Yeah.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:58:49]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0I can work with your numbers and help you find a way to do this, but what I&#8217;m really trying to show you is this is not just about cash flow. It has nothing to do with it. It&#8217;s a way of looking at the world that your mom and likely her mom have taken on and unconsciously passed on to you. Jason, how do you think that your upbringing has affected your relationship with money today?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:59:12]\u00a0<\/span><b>Jason:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0I didn&#8217;t get a lot of what I wanted when I was a kid, and so now I have the money to do so, and so I just got it. I think that that directly correlates in that sense.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:59:30]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0I agree with your assessment, Jason. I think that&#8217;s pretty spot on. What&#8217;s interesting is that you also track things really carefully.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:59:37]\u00a0<\/span><b>Jason:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Yeah, my dad had a budget. But the difference is I feel like it was a budget that was aspirational of just like, this is when we&#8217;re going to get the car paid off. This is when we&#8217;re going to get this and this paid off. And then probably opening up the word I&#8217;m not supposed to say for him, cashflow.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:00:05]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Sorry, is this your dad&#8217;s budget or your budget? Sound eerily the same.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:00:09]\u00a0<\/span><b>Jason:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0It sounds very similar. I know. But I think the difference between his budget and my budget is that mine is connected to a bank account. And so I can see when stuff is taking stuff down. And maybe we&#8217;re just a little bit too granular with the way we do it, but I think at our certain stage, it&#8217;s just smarter to do what we do.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:00:37]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0How many categories do you have in your budget?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:00:40]\u00a0<\/span><b>Jason:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0You don&#8217;t want to know.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:00:40]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Okay, put it up on screen. I know you have it open anyway. You never go more than four feet away from a budget, both of you. True or false? I\u00a0[Bleep]\u00a0know it. I don&#8217;t even have to answer the question. Show me the budget on screen.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:00:51]\u00a0<\/span><b>Jason:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0I have it up on screen.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:00:52]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Oh my [Bleep] God. The amount of numbers on this page is more numbers than I used to run my entire business. Okay. All right. Hold on, hold on, hold on. Slow down, slow down. I know you&#8217;re adept at this. I&#8217;m not. I don&#8217;t look at budgets. I look at CSPs, not a budget, everybody. All right. Let me tell you what I see on screen. First of all, this is a very nice-looking budget, as budgets go. It&#8217;s like me saying this is a nice-looking coffin.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:01:27]\u00a0<\/span><b>Jason:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Yeah.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:01:28]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0All right. So at the top we have uncategorized transactions, is only $7 and 70 cents. Keep in mind, this couple makes a lot of money. So you are clearly tracking everything. I see some categories, including mortgage, daycare, electric, natural gas, dental, car insurance, internet, phone, groceries, gas, household.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:01:51]\u00a0I&#8217;m starting to get overwhelmed now, but I&#8217;m going to keep going. Moving down, we have cats. We have monthly subscriptions. I just want to read the number of subscriptions here, everybody. These are broken down by category. Gym membership, Hulu, Disney, HBO, SimpliSafe, Spotify, iCloud, car wash, Dropbox 1Password, Apple TV, Copilot, and YouTube Premium. Okay, let&#8217;s keep going.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:02:15]\u00a0True expenses. These are things like home maintenance, therapy, clothing, contacts, glasses. Contacts and glasses are two separate categories. Makeup, haircuts, broken out by each person. I don&#8217;t know if I have enough tape to record how many categories there are. Just go all the way down. I&#8217;m even running out of&#8211;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:02:36]\u00a0<\/span><b>Jason:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0That&#8217;s it.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:02:37]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0How many categories? Is there a way to count how many there are?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:02:39]\u00a0<\/span><b>Jason:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Yes.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:02:41]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Great. Tell me.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:02:42]\u00a0<\/span><b>Jason:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a084.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:02:43]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Holy\u00a0[Bleep]. All right. could take this off screen. 84 categories. Why? What does it get you?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:02:54]\u00a0<\/span><b>Jason:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Right now it&#8217;s just staying on target.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:03:01]\u00a0<\/span><b>Katie:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0I think it gives us control of what we do have, and it allows us to not overspend. It allows us to have the conversations, and we know that we don&#8217;t want to be this granular once we&#8217;re out of debt. We&#8217;ve already talked about it. We obviously don&#8217;t want to be this granular.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:03:24]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Can I just ask like a very pointed question? Why don&#8217;t you just start simplifying right now?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:03:31]\u00a0<\/span><b>Katie:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0We thought about it. I think what we like about having it this granular right now is just to be like, what could we remove from our budget if we were to get rid of some of those subscriptions, just to tighten it up even more, like throw more at debt and get out even sooner? It&#8217;s nice to be able to see every expense.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:03:56]\u00a0Can I just say something? Y&#8217;all have a lot of debt. You have basically no emergency fund. You have 84 categories, and you told me you have that because you like to be able to look at it and say, &#8220;What could we cut?&#8221; You spend $475 a month on subscriptions.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:04:13]\u00a0<\/span><b>Jason:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Yeah.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:04:14]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0If you were going to cut them by having each one laid out in a granular fashion, you would&#8217;ve cut them. You&#8217;ve structurally set yourselves up to play small. I would rather have you saying, &#8220;Let&#8217;s talk about the big questions. How are we going to increase our savings rate right now? How are we going to diversify our risk right now.&#8221;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:04:36]\u00a0You actually keep $475 of subscriptions, so you&#8217;re living in the worst of both worlds. Let&#8217;s play small and actually not make any substantive changes. We&#8217;ll just wait. And then when external circumstances change, we will magically change internally. That&#8217;s my assessment. What do you think? Feel free to push back if you think I&#8217;m wrong.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:04:58]\u00a0<\/span><b>Katie:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0I think you&#8217;re spot on.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:04:59]\u00a0<\/span><b>Jason:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0You&#8217;re not wrong. Yeah, we are doing a lot of waiting and hoping for an environmental change before we change ourselves. I think it would be cool if our budget literally reflected the CSP and we had those numbers instead.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:05:21]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0I would love that.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[Narration]<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:05:22]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Jason and Katie believe that their budget gives them control. I think it just gives them tunnel vision. They&#8217;re replacing the batteries in their smoke alarm,\u00a0they&#8217;re proudly checking off yet another to-do item,\u00a0but the freaking house is on fire. And the more they obsess over tiny expenses, the less energy they have to actually ask the big questions.\u00a0Are we saving for our future? Are we building stability for our daughter?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:05:46]\u00a0Tracking yet another number won&#8217;t tell them this. In fact, the skills of thinking big are deteriorating day by day. If they want any hope of saving and investing, they need to break out of this small way of looking at money.\u00a0Otherwise, all that freaking precision will leave them with beautiful budgets, but nothing of lasting value. That is why we are going back to the CSP to confront the truth that is hiding in plain sight.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[Interview]<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:06:13]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Okay. Can we look at the numbers again? So let&#8217;s remember the following. You have $118,000 in investments today, in your 30s. You got $419,000 of debt. Can we break that debt down? What is that?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:06:37]\u00a0<\/span><b>Jason:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Mostly the mortgage.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:06:40]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Uh-huh.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:06:41]\u00a0<\/span><b>Jason:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0380,000 or so on the mortgage. Credit card debt, 2k.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:06:48]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Mm-hmm.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:06:50]\u00a0<\/span><b>Jason:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0And student loans about 5k.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:06:52]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Okay.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:06:54]\u00a0<\/span><b>Jason:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0That&#8217;s literally those. And then so beyond that, our car, we got about 15k left. Our windows, we have about 5k left.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:07:07]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0What about the patio?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:07:08]\u00a0<\/span><b>Katie:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0We have 1,500 remaining on that, but it&#8217;ll be paid off august 10th.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:07:17]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Cool. Let&#8217;s look at the rest.\u00a0So we got 83%. Your housing costs are actually not out of control. They&#8217;re\u00a0pretty reasonable. You&#8217;re at 22%. I do\u00a0want to\u00a0point out a couple things that are notable. So you have your mortgage, but then you also have $1,173 of car payment, and then on top of that, you have $1,683 a month of debt payments. So now we&#8217;re really starting to add up.\u00a0Even with a high income, it&#8217;s really starting to get up there.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:07:49]\u00a0Then you have something called possum issues, which is $1,500. I understand that that&#8217;s\u00a0going to\u00a0be paid off soon, but that&#8217;s still a lot. This is every month, by the way. Then we have\u00a0daycare at 1,560. That&#8217;s unavoidable. All of that really starts to push those numbers way up. So that hopefully explains at a big picture level why you have 83% fixed costs, even with $20,500 a month of gross income,\u00a0or 13,321 net. Are we all on the same page here?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:08:28]\u00a0<\/span><b>Jason:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Yeah, 100%.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:08:28]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0When I read that stuff off to you, what do you think as you hear it?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:08:36]\u00a0<\/span><b>Jason:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0The 83% is temporary. I know once that debt&#8217;s paid off, it&#8217;s going to be back down to 60% or something.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:08:48]\u00a0<\/span><b>Katie:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0We know that once a debt is paid off, we have actually a good amount of money that we can build the savings and then throw at investments. We actually have the ability to do that.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:09:02]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Okay. Let&#8217;s look.\u00a0So your possum issues, I&#8217;m\u00a0going to\u00a0just zero that out so we see how that drops the number down. Okay?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:09:10]\u00a0<\/span><b>Jason:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Yeah.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:09:11]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0That takes you down to 72%. That&#8217;s a big change. That&#8217;s great. Let&#8217;s take debt payments. When is this going to be paid off, the $1,683 a month?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:09:25]\u00a0<\/span><b>Jason:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0So that should be gone by in March.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:09:27]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Okay, great. Let me zero that out just to see what we got. Wow. That takes you exactly down to 60%,\u00a0right on the money. Okay. How many more on the car payment?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:09:39]\u00a0<\/span><b>Jason:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0So that one&#8217;s probably going to go longer. There&#8217;s 15,000 left on that.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:09:44]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0All right. So we&#8217;ll leave that. Oh, wait. That&#8217;s like a year.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:09:47]\u00a0<\/span><b>Jason:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0But that has gas in it as well. 240 for gas.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:09:52]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0All\u00a0right.\u00a0Let&#8217;s just put 400. I like to add a buffer.\u00a0That takes you down to 54%. All\u00a0right. You&#8217;re in a very healthy position at 54%\u00a0once those three things are paid off. So mathematically, you will be in a healthy position, especially with your income. I&#8217;m not concerned with the math part of this. I&#8217;m concerned with the way that you both treat money.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:10:20]\u00a0<\/span><b>Jason:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Agreed.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:10:21]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Based on your history, evidence would suggest that as soon as you become debt-free, you&#8217;re going to spend it on something else. If I had to guess, it would be something around the house or something for your daughter, and like a big&#8211; I&#8217;m talking big, 25,000-plus. Wow. From the smiles and nods, I think you both agree with me. In fact, what is it?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:10:46]\u00a0<\/span><b>Jason:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0No, we know we need to do something with the backyard. We can&#8217;t leave it as a dirt pile. It has to be something.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:10:54]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Americans love to buy land. I\u00a0[Bleep]\u00a0love land. And then they love to spend all of their money maintaining this land that an average of four people per year see.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:11:07]\u00a0<\/span><b>Jason:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Yeah.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:11:08]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0All right. It&#8217;s up to you. Again, it&#8217;s your money, your Rich Life.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:11:13]\u00a0<\/span><b>Jason:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0I think we should just do something modest in the backyard. We don&#8217;t even have stairs going down to the ground. We need to at least do something like that, but maybe it&#8217;s not a full 25,000-dollar makeover.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:11:30]\u00a0<\/span><b>Katie:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0And that&#8217;s why I think we talked about making sure that it was more of a tiered approach and just doing the bare minimum of a concrete slab or pavers or something. We&#8217;re not going to put a kitchen out there. That could be tier 5. If we really&#8211;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:11:48]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Katie, what if the yard guy comes over? He goes, &#8220;Listen, first of all, this is an investment. And when you put the grill out here with the tent over it, and the stairs with the ADA approved, whatever, it&#8217;s all equity.&#8221; What are you going to say?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:12:05]\u00a0<\/span><b>Katie:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0I&#8217;m going to say we can&#8217;t afford it. That&#8217;s what I&#8217;d say now.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:12:09]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Well, I can offer you a payment plan. I can do a four-year payment plan. Certainly would&#8217;ve&#8211;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:12:13]\u00a0<\/span><b>Katie:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0I turn my years off.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:12:15]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Wow.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:12:17]\u00a0<\/span><b>Katie:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Yeah. When we&#8217;re at a retail store and they&#8217;re starting to do their spiel about a credit card, I&#8217;m like, &#8220;No. No, thanks.&#8221; Before they even finish their sentence. I&#8217;d turn my ears off now.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:12:31]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0[Bleep]\u00a0love it.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:12:33]\u00a0<\/span><b>Katie:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Yeah.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:12:33]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0All right. Back to the CSP. Daycare can&#8217;t be changed. Let&#8217;s leave that. Groceries at 900. Sounds reasonable to me. Do you think you could cut that down by 100 or 200? I&#8217;m just asking. What do you think?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:12:50]\u00a0<\/span><b>Jason:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0I don&#8217;t know.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:12:51]\u00a0<\/span><b>Katie:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0If we did more planning, maybe.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:12:53]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0You know what? You can cut your groceries down. I&#8217;m not the grocery Grinch, but almost every couple I talk to, they just literally go to the grocery store as if they&#8217;re literally blind. They just pick stuff out. Oh, take this. Ah, I like the feeling of the box. Ah. Just shop to a number. I&#8217;m taking that down to what? What&#8217;s the number you can reasonably get if you were to actually plan it?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:13:16]\u00a0<\/span><b>Jason:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Let&#8217;s do\u00a0700.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:13:20]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Yeah.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:13:20]\u00a0<\/span><b>Jason:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Cut 200 bucks\u00a0off.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:13:21]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0How does that feel to\u00a0you, Katie?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:13:23]\u00a0<\/span><b>Katie:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Yeah,\u00a0that feels good.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:13:24]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0700. All\u00a0right. I already can see all the angry people in the comments. Ramit Sethi, so out of touch. All right. Clothes at 100. You have a baby. That&#8217;s seems pretty reasonable to me. Is that for your baby&#8217;s clothes?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:13:39]\u00a0<\/span><b>Jason:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0That&#8217;s not even including the baby&#8217;s clothes.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:13:41]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Uh-oh.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:13:43]\u00a0<\/span><b>Katie:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0The baby&#8217;s clothes, that comes out, I think, of the very bottom.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:13:49]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Guilt-free spending?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:13:51]\u00a0<\/span><b>Jason:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Oh, guilt-free.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:13:52]\u00a0<\/span><b>Katie:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Yeah.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:13:52]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0All right. Fine. So 100 bucks a month. Fine. I don&#8217;t have any comments on that. Phone, fine. Subscriptions, 475. No\u00a0[Bleep]\u00a0way. Not when you have that much debt.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:14:02]\u00a0<\/span><b>Katie:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Well, we&#8217;ve already talked about it where our gym membership is 200 a month. And on top of that we have a personal trainer app thing that&#8217;s $50 a month. We already talked about getting rid of our gym membership, just using that phone app that&#8217;s $50, and working on our basement. We can do that instead.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:14:25]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0All right. Just to confirm, I am not telling you you have to cut your gym membership, but I do think the amount isn&#8217;t in the right place. If I were you and I got $475 of subscriptions and I got debt, I&#8217;m aiming to cut it down to about 100 bucks a month, truthfully. You think you can do that?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:14:47]\u00a0<\/span><b>Jason:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0I think we could do it.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:14:48]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0You want to just do it right now?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:14:50]\u00a0<\/span><b>Jason:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Yeah.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:14:50]\u00a0<\/span><b>Katie:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Sure.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:14:51]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0All those freaking lines on your budget, and it didn&#8217;t happen there. It&#8217;s going to happen here in the CSP, my friends. All right. What are you going to cut?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:15:01]\u00a0<\/span><b>Katie:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Well, the gym membership,<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:15:03]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Gym is 200. What&#8217;s next?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:15:06]\u00a0<\/span><b>Jason:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Probably a car wash. We could cut that. 45.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:15:11]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Okay.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:15:12]\u00a0<\/span><b>Katie:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Amazon Prime because we don&#8217;t need it.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:15:14]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Okay. That&#8217;s what? Isn&#8217;t that like&#8211; how much is that?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:15:17]\u00a0<\/span><b>Jason:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Yeah, Amazon is 150 a year.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:15:24]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0So let&#8217;s say 10 bucks. What else? You want to cut that? You can cut it. What else?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:15:29]\u00a0<\/span><b>Jason:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0There&#8217;s not really any big numbers left. It&#8217;s all just nickel and dimming at this point.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:15:35]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0All right. You&#8217;re down to 225.\u00a0All\u00a0right.\u00a0You&#8217;re down to 80%. Mm, not great, but okay. Let&#8217;s go down to investments. You got something going into 401(k)s. That&#8217;s fine. That&#8217;s for your match, right?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:15:55]\u00a0<\/span><b>Jason:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0And that just comes out of our net or whatever.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:16:01]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Yeah. Savings at 100. I guess. Personally I would put that money towards an emergency fund. I know it doesn&#8217;t add up a lot, but it starts to get the habit going.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:16:16]\u00a0<\/span><b>Jason:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Yeah.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:16:17]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0And finally, at your guilt-free spending, my opinion is way too high. Because not only is it 19% when I typically recommend 20 to 35%, but that&#8217;s for people who do not have big amounts of debt. You also make a huge amount of money, so the denominator is gigantic. 19% of your take home pay, which is 13,000 bucks, that means you have $2,548 a month on \u200aguilt-free spending.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:16:46]\u00a0<\/span><b>Jason:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0But that number, it says 25 now, but since we removed stuff, I think it was around 2,000. So it&#8217;s gone up $500.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:16:54]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0That&#8217;s because we eliminated 500 bucks from above. Okay, so let&#8217;s fix that. Let me show you what&#8211; yeah, you&#8217;re right. Let me show you. So everybody listening, when you cut costs from your fixed costs or any other place on the CSP, it naturally flows down to guilt-free spending because that shows you what you have left.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:17:11]\u00a0So the fact that you now have an extra 500 bucks a month is actually something we should do something with. In my opinion, we do not just want to let it sit there because it will get absorbed. That&#8217;s the way things happen. So we want to direct it somewhere.\u00a0Where do you\u00a0want to\u00a0put that extra 500 bucks?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:17:27]\u00a0<\/span><b>Jason:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Emergency\u00a0fund.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:17:28]\u00a0<\/span><b>Katie:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Emergency fund.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:17:28]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Agreed. 500 bucks. Okay,\u00a0that makes things much better. Let&#8217;s take a look now. We&#8217;re at 80% on fixed costs. Investments are still at zero, even acknowledging that we have a little bit going through pre-tax, 401(k)s. Savings are now at 5%. 500 bucks a month going towards an emergency fund, which is nice. And then you have 15% being spent on guilt-free spending, which is $2,048.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:17:53]\u00a0<\/span><b>Jason:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Yeah.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:17:54]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0So far so good. Can I get a little bit more aggressive?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:17:58]\u00a0<\/span><b>Jason:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Yeah.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:17:59]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0The reason I want to get more aggressive is that the way you both look at money, you&#8217;re living in this chapter of like, God, we got to get this debt off our backs. Let&#8217;s do it. So why don&#8217;t we take some of that money and either pay off the debt faster or fund your emergency fund. What do you think?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:18:19]\u00a0<\/span><b>Katie:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Love it.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:18:19]\u00a0<\/span><b>Jason:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Yeah. That is the goal. And because you said we were cleaning house earlier, getting ready to talk to you, we&#8217;ve started doing that where we only want to go out on Fridays.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:18:32]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Great. Where do you go?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:18:38]\u00a0<\/span><b>Katie:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0We&#8217;re trying to do a different place every week.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:18:40]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0How much does it cost when you go?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:18:42]\u00a0<\/span><b>Katie:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Oh, 60 bucks.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:18:44]\u00a0<\/span><b>Jason:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a060 bucks.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:18:46]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0All in, tip, everything included?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:18:48]\u00a0<\/span><b>Katie:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Yes.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:18:49]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0It&#8217;s very reasonable. So how much are you actually spending on guilt-free spending every month?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:18:56]\u00a0<\/span><b>Jason:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0As far as guilt-free, then we aren&#8217;t. Restaurants is probably where it ends.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:19:03]\u00a0<\/span><b>Katie:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Oh, and then I have $100 for makeup every month.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:19:08]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Okay, 500 bucks.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:19:10]\u00a0<\/span><b>Katie:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Often I&#8217;m not even spending that whole amount.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:19:13]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0That tracks. How much for kid&#8217;s clothes per month?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:19:16]\u00a0<\/span><b>Katie:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Probably around 100. Yeah.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:19:21]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Great. We&#8217;re at 600 bucks. Perfect. Y&#8217;all have $2,048 allocated for guilt-free spending. You see how ridiculous it is?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:19:29]\u00a0<\/span><b>Jason:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Yes.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:19:30]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0What does it tell you?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:19:32]\u00a0<\/span><b>Jason:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0That it needs to be allocated elsewhere.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:19:34]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Exactly. But more importantly, it tells you that this fixation on looking at every single line is actually not serving you. Because by looking at the big picture and asking the big questions, not getting stuck in the wheel, &#8220;Oh, how much does this thing cost versus that? We&#8217;re going to cancel.&#8221; No, the big picture.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:19:52]\u00a0&#8220;Hey, we&#8217;re spending now $2,000 a month on guilt-free spending. That sounds a bit weird. What are we actually doing? We go out to eat. We get kid&#8217;s clothes. We do this, makeup. Oh my God, there&#8217;s 1,500 extra dollars. What should we actually allocate that money towards?&#8221; This is how we ask the big questions.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:20:13]\u00a0What do you want to do with the 1,500? I&#8217;m actually going to leave a little bit of extra money. I&#8217;m not trying to strip you down to the bone, but what do you want to do with&#8211; it appears we have at least $1,000 dollars a month to allocate.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:20:25]\u00a0<\/span><b>Jason:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Yeah.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:20:26]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0What do you want to do with it?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:20:27]\u00a0<\/span><b>Jason:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0For guilt-free.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:20:28]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Mm-hmm.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:20:29]\u00a0<\/span><b>Jason:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Let&#8217;s get massages, get the nails done.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:20:33]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Okay. That didn&#8217;t go the direction I thought, but I&#8217;m down.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:20:37]\u00a0<\/span><b>Jason:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0That&#8217;s not what you were saying?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:20:38]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0No, no, it&#8217;s good. You want to get a massage once a month? How much does that cost, Jason?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:20:43]\u00a0<\/span><b>Jason:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0I don&#8217;t know. 200 bucks.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:20:45]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0And then Katie, something about nails. How much does that cost?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:20:49]\u00a0<\/span><b>Katie:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0$120 probably with tip.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:20:54]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0All right. So we got 320. We call it 350. You guys still have $1,000 a month to allocate from \u200aguilt-free spending to somewhere else. What do you want to do with the money?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:21:04]\u00a0<\/span><b>Jason:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Oh, that&#8217;s what he was asking?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:21:06]\u00a0<\/span><b>Katie:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Yeah. We don&#8217;t&#8211;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:21:08]\u00a0<\/span><b>Jason:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Debt payments.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:21:09]\u00a0<\/span><b>Katie:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Debt payment. That&#8217;s what we want to put it towards.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:21:11]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Oh, all of it?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:21:13]\u00a0<\/span><b>Katie:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Yeah. I can sacrifice getting my nails done until that&#8217;s done. Oh, sorry. I know that&#8217;s not what you wanted.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:21:20]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0We already got your nails. You&#8217;re already getting the massage. That&#8217;s already coming from \u200aguilt-free spending, and you still have $1,000 a month.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[Narration]<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:21:28]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Okay,\u00a0think about it. Katie makes great money. She&#8217;s working hard. Yes, there&#8217;s debt, and yes, they need to pay the debt down, which is why we attack the CSP the way we did.\u00a0But Katie&#8217;s instinct is to immediately sacrifice her nails and clothes. Okay,\u00a0maybe.\u00a0It&#8217;s your money.\u00a0It&#8217;s your choice.\u00a0But cutting 50 bucks a month is not really\u00a0going to\u00a0move the needle.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:21:49]\u00a0And actually,\u00a0doing that represents something very sad to me,\u00a0something that I see on this show way too often, which is moms putting themselves last over and over.\u00a0Katie&#8217;s mom did that, by the way. And now Katie. And what do you think would happen to her daughter as her daughter grows up and sees her mom doing exactly that? These outdated gender norms need to go. Moms,\u00a0giving up your nails is probably not going to give you a\u00a0Rich Life.\u00a0More importantly, you deserve to think bigger than that.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[Interview]<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:22:20]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0If I were you, I would take 700 of those dollars and put it towards debt because you can accelerate that. But I would put 300 towards emergency fund because I want to build the habit of starting to pay off my emergency fund. Do you see what just happened? You actually have more money than you think.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:22:43]\u00a0<\/span><b>Jason:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Yeah.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:22:44]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:\u00a0<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">But you have not been able to see it because you&#8217;re so in the weeds. You actually have more money than you think, so you actually can get a massage and do your nails and pay off your debt faster and save for an emergency fund. If you can do that, then you can be disciplined about nails, which for a lot of people, you actually have to be disciplined about spending your guilt-free money.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:23:08]\u00a0Katie, when you tell me I have the makeup money, but I don&#8217;t even spend it, to me, that&#8217;s not impressive. I don&#8217;t consider that a virtue. I actually think you&#8217;re failing at the skill of spending money. Spend it if it&#8217;s allocated. And also pay that debt off aggressively. Set that emergency fund up aggressively. And as soon as those debts get paid off, shift that money 90-plus percent of it into your emergency fund.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:23:31]\u00a0And when you do that, your debt&#8217;s going to be paid off even months faster than you thought. Your emergency fund is going to be getting built up while your debt is paid off. And as soon as your debts are paid off, that 90-plus percent of it gets shifted to the emergency fund, so that starts getting built up faster too.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:23:48]\u00a0<\/span><b>Katie:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0I think that&#8217;s a good way to not repeat the cycle. To start exercising those muscles&#8211; thank you&#8211; no, so that we&#8217;re ready when the time comes.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:24:04]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Life is a series of fluid decisions. You don&#8217;t wait until your daughter is seven years old for her to start making friends. That&#8217;s not how it works. You don&#8217;t wait until she is cognitively able to read everything to start reading. You do it before. Same thing with money. We don&#8217;t wait until the magical day where we can do it. We start doing a little bit of it now, build the habit, then turn that dial up. That&#8217;s exactly what you&#8217;re doing. How do you feel about that?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:24:31]\u00a0<\/span><b>Jason:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Yeah, I think it&#8217;s baby steps. The emergency fund is a great first step, and then once that&#8217;s completely allocated, then that money can go towards the future.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:24:43]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Exactly. And really, the biggest and most important step right now is actually changing the way that you both feel about money. So it&#8217;s like you&#8217;re going to fill your emergency fund up. I have no doubt about that. Mathematically, you both know how to do it. But can you feel happy on the way to doing that?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:24:59]\u00a0Can you simplify the numbers that you track on the way there? Can you actually make sure that you both are resourceful and disciplined enough to actually spend on things that are important to each of you individually? If you can do that and start to feel good about money, your chances of accumulating a lot actually go way up. Couple of questions for you. What stood out to you about today&#8217;s conversation? Katie?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:25:28]\u00a0<\/span><b>Katie:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0I guess I&#8217;m surprised that we don&#8217;t talk about money well. I always thought that we talked about money well, but I&#8217;m seeing all the flaws in how we talk about money. I see that I am completely repeating the cycle of what I was taught growing up. I guess it&#8217;s not a surprise, but I don&#8217;t know how to plan for the future.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:25:57]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0That&#8217;s pretty insightful. It might knock me a bit off balance if I realize those things about myself. Because we all have a vision of who we are and what we know. But I actually think sometimes the way you receive it, I can tell, is pretty healthy. Jason, how about for you?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:26:15]\u00a0<\/span><b>Jason:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0We&#8217;re focusing on the wrong thing. We need to zoom out and look at the big picture and get out of the weeds. Ultimately think about our goals and our future rather than the now and how much groceries are costing or whatever. And I&#8217;m finding that yeah, we talk about it, but we&#8217;re not really communicating effectively about it. I think that&#8217;s the biggest thing I&#8217;ve realized.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:26:50]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0I think that&#8217;s an awesome lesson. I think that&#8217;s actually awesome. To me, I think you&#8217;re very perceptive about it, Jason. It&#8217;s like, we talk about it, but it&#8217;s not effective. It&#8217;s not accomplishing the things we want it to accomplish.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:27:08]\u00a0<\/span><b>Jason:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Yeah.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:27:09]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0And I see the same pattern with your budget. We track everything carefully, but it&#8217;s not accomplishing the things we want it to accomplish.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:27:19]\u00a0<\/span><b>Jason:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Yeah.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:27:20]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0And sometimes the hardest part is actually saying, &#8220;Wow, that thing that I&#8217;ve been doing and doing well for a long time, we might not even need to do it at all.&#8221; Okay. I want to give you guys a little bit of homework. I recommend that when you talk about money, before you jump into the normal type of conversations that you have, you both zoom out.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:27:49]\u00a0Go in the backyard or go wherever is comfortable, no numbers needed, and just start by saying, &#8220;How do we want to show up in these conversations? How do we want to make these conversations amazing, effective, fun, connective, and spend 10, 15 minutes really talking about that? What do we want to do to make these conversations amazing? Then and only then you can start talking about it. And remember, you don&#8217;t have to talk about it all at once. Keep the conversation 30 minutes.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:28:20]\u00a0Talk about it again later. I have a lot of confidence in the two of you making changes. I really do. I know your debt&#8217;s going to be paid off, your emergency fund&#8217;s going to be filled, but above all, you&#8217;re actually going to start having fun with money. That to me is the best part.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[Narration]<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:28:36]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0We&#8217;ve already gotten updates from Jason and Katie since this conversation. I&#8217;m\u00a0going to\u00a0share them with you in just a minute. Let&#8217;s not forget that their dream house came with more than a mortgage.\u00a055,000-dollar\u00a0windows, a 62,000-dollar\u00a0SUV, and of course, the dead possum rotting under the deck.\u00a0I think that&#8217;s quite a metaphor for what&#8217;s going on.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:28:56]\u00a0The hidden costs of the American dream, quietly eating away at money and causing more and more anxiety. Predictably, parents passed their relationship with money onto their kids.\u00a0Here, thinking small, missing the big picture, constantly worrying. These are things that get passed on.\u00a0But I know they can change it.\u00a0So they have work ahead of them. Let&#8217;s see how Jason and Katie have been doing.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:29:23]\u00a0<\/span><b>Katie:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0I always thought that Jason and I talked about money so openly and effectively with each other, but I never really thought that talking about each individual transaction was actually an ineffective way to talk about money\u00a0and we should actually zoom out and focus on the big picture and the future goals for our family.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:29:43]\u00a0I also never thought about that working at the same company carries a lot of financial risk, and so we are going to be starting to put more money towards our emergency fund now while we&#8217;re paying off our loans, so that when the time comes, when we reach that next phase and our loans are paid off, then we have an emergency fund\u00a0and we&#8217;re more likely to be successful and not fall into similar patterns.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:30:31]\u00a0<\/span><b>Jason:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Your voice has been ringing in my head for several days,\u00a0and I find it interesting how you pegged us almost perfectly. We are almost out of debt, but there&#8217;s a high chance that we could fall right back into it unless we change\u00a0our habits and how we think about money and just the overall vision of what we want our money to be thinking about\u00a0the future rather than just the present.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:30:59]\u00a0We need to think bigger,\u00a0and we know that now.\u00a0We&#8217;re working daily to think about our\u00a0Rich Life\u00a0and what we want it to be. I feel like we&#8217;ve been so under for a while that we haven&#8217;t been able to think what we want it to be.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:31:25]\u00a0And so I&#8217;ve really been challenging myself to think better about that. We are\u00a0going to\u00a0be doing the\u00a0Money for Couples book club, and then following that with the\u00a0I\u00a0Will\u00a0Teach\u00a0You to\u00a0Be\u00a0Rich book club, so we&#8217;re both on the same page for everything and we know where to go from here.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:31:44]\u00a0<\/span><b>Katie:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Hi, Ramit. We&#8217;re here for our three-week follow up since our conversation with you. One of the things that we&#8217;ve implemented so far is that we got the\u00a0Money for\u00a0Couples book, and we&#8217;ve been doing a book club nearly every night. We&#8217;re already on\u00a0Chapter\u00a08, and it&#8217;s been really fun taking turns leading discussion and doing the different exercises together.\u00a0Found out that I am an optimizer and a worrier.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:32:25]\u00a0<\/span><b>Jason:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0And I&#8217;m an optimizer and a dreamer. One of the biggest things we talked about in our conversation was that we needed to simplify our budget.\u00a0And our budget was 84 categories, and we&#8217;ve gotten it down to 23, reflecting the CSP as much as we could. It&#8217;s really nice to see all of these bigger buckets,\u00a0and we have more of a bird&#8217;s eye view of our money rather than just being down in the weeds,\u00a0like we talked about.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:32:54]\u00a0<\/span><b>Katie:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0One of the things that we talked about during our conversation was cutting costs in a couple\u00a0of\u00a0ways so that we could start putting some money towards our emergency fund and a little bit here and there for a\u00a0Rich Life. And we found that we could cut $200 from our subscriptions, and then also we are able to reduce our grocery budget.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:33:14]\u00a0<\/span><b>Jason:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0I think we&#8217;ve\u00a0set\u00a0it pretty well. We&#8217;re trying to be more intentional about the groceries that we&#8217;re getting.\u00a0And so emergency fund hit the top of our priority list,\u00a0and we&#8217;re starting to add to it as we pay down our debt now instead of waiting for one step to be done before we start with the next. And so\u00a0along with that, our high interest debt should be paid off by this fall, and then by next spring we should have all of our debt paid off,\u00a0while also keeping in mind our\u00a0Rich Life. Because that&#8217;s always\u00a0going to\u00a0be at the top of our mind now.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:34:01]\u00a0<\/span><b>Katie:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0And speaking of our\u00a0Rich Life, we realized that the examples that we brought up on the call with you were actually quite sad.\u00a0And after reading the book, we were able to reflect on what we actually want our\u00a0Rich Life\u00a0to look like,\u00a0and we were able to figure out quite a good list.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:34:44]\u00a0<\/span><b>Jason:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0You&#8217;ll be happy to hear that we no longer talk about money every day. We&#8217;ve been trying to pick a really good point of keeping those conversations to a minimum, and we&#8217;re\u00a0going to\u00a0start doing monthly money meetings. We get paid monthly,\u00a0and so that&#8217;s\u00a0going to\u00a0coincide with our budget meeting perfectly.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:35:43]\u00a0<\/span><b>Katie:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Yeah. So it&#8217;s been a really fun last few weeks since our conversation with you.\u00a0It&#8217;s been fun to read the book and do the exercises together and start diving in headfirst into what our\u00a0Rich Life\u00a0can look like.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:35:56]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0If\u00a0Jason and Katie give their future this level of focus, the same level of focus they used to give to their massive budget, then the two of them have a really good shot at living a beautifully\u00a0Rich Life\u00a0together.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[01:36:09]\u00a0If this episode has you thinking about your own\u00a0Rich Life, I&#8217;ve got another one that you should watch right here.<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>\ufeff Jason (38) and Katie (36) thought buying their dream home in Minnesota would be the start of a new chapter. 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