{"id":58719,"date":"2025-11-18T03:26:00","date_gmt":"2025-11-18T07:26:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.iwillteachyoutoberich.com\/?p=58719"},"modified":"2025-11-18T04:09:56","modified_gmt":"2025-11-18T08:09:56","slug":"how-to-ask-for-reference","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.iwillteachyoutoberich.com\/how-to-ask-for-reference\/","title":{"rendered":"How to Ask for a Reference (4 Simple Steps That Always Work)"},"content":{"rendered":"\t\t
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I\u2019m going to show you how to build your own army of powerful references. Follow these steps, and you\u2019ll have a list of people ready to praise your work and help you land any job you want.<\/p>

1. It\u2019s worth taking 2x the time if you get 10x the result<\/h2>

Before we start, I want to be crystal clear about two things:<\/p>

1. Building a powerful network<\/a> is not easy.<\/strong><\/p>

If you want something easy, go find some stupid blog that posts Top 10 Career Tips for Success!<\/p>

My students take the smarter path. They work harder on the right things and, in return, get massively disproportionate rewards.<\/p>

For example, if the average person spends 1 hour a week sending their resumes out, my students will spend 3\u2026 but they’ll also get 10x the response rate. That’s what I call disproportionate results.<\/p>

2. Building a network is not about sending a fake email to someone, pretending to be interested in them, then asking for a reference.<\/strong><\/p>

It\u2019s about building relationships by investing in others first. Figuring out what they want and love and helping them get it \u2014 NOT instantly expecting a magic job reference. In fact, most of the \u201cnetworking\u201d you do will be helping people and getting nothing back in return.<\/p>

This may make you uncomfortable since we’re so used to our transactional culture. So how do you tap your natural network for a powerful reference?<\/p>

The answer is to shift your focus from a \u201cme\u201d perspective to a \u201dyou\u201d perspective.<\/p>

When you change your outlook about networking to a \u201cyou first\u201d mentality, you will see massive changes in your life.<\/p>

For example, years ago, Charlie Hoehn<\/a> used this approach on me and other New York Times<\/em> bestselling authors to land himself some cool gigs.<\/p>

And this \u201dyou first\u201d approach is how I’ve been able to get advice from bestselling authors, rockstar CEOs, and all kinds of fascinating people.<\/p>

2. Get busy people to be your references<\/h2>

So how can this approach be used for creating powerful referrers?<\/p>

Often this means understanding what\u2019s expected from your references. Your hiring manager ideally wants to get on the phone for a few minutes with someone who is emphatic about your work. Someone who can strongly communicate why you\u2019re the perfect fit for them.<\/p>

Generally speaking, the people who can articulate that are people you worked with most recently and\/or who are close friends with you. Because they\u2019re the ones with the freshest and best memory of your strengths and accomplishments.<\/p>

Ideally, you\u2019ll have such a close relationship that you don\u2019t need to ask them if it\u2019s OK to use them as a reference every time.<\/p>

You can just let them know each time they may be contacted.<\/p>

The email script below works perfectly. In fact, it\u2019s not even a full email \u2014 it\u2019s just a subject line:<\/p>

Subject:<\/strong> Can I put you down as a professional reference? (eom)<\/p>

The acronym means \u201cend of message.\u201d It lets busy people know that the subject line IS the message. This increases your response rate since someone can read this on their phone and respond with a quick \u201cyes.\u201d<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t

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